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I’m answering questions about when it’s okay to let people into the house, how to know when you’re ready and your house is ready.
I’m also talking about friendships and the getting-to-know-you awkward conversations and assumptions about housekeeping being easy for women and not for men, and how to get past this into deeper friendships.
Things Mentioned in this Episode:
How to Clean a Messy House Post
How to Clean a messy house podcast part one
14 Days to Opening Your Front Door to Guests podcast part one
14 Days to Opening Your Front Door to Guests – the e-book
What is TPAD?
Sorry I didn’t say! It’s Time Passage Awareness Disorder.
My husband and I both grew up in cluttered homes, and our parents became hoarders in their old age. Needless to say, I was never taught housekeeping skills. I am still learning many things about housekeeping, thank you Dana and many other people for your input. Although now my home would be considered “normal” by many people, some friends have asked me: why do you fold your sheets wrong?; why do you have dishes in your sink? (didn’t they notice that there are no dishes on the counter and those dishes are from breakfast this morning?!); why don’t you fold your laundry from the dryer? don’t you know that you are supposed to clean your toilet twice a week? I have learned that “Humility, after the first shock, is a cheerful virtue.” When I have an attitude of grace toward these friends, I learn something (even when I don’t follow their advice) and do not resent them. I also need them to overlook my faults.
I am not disgusted by my slob friends’ messy houses because I know that my wonderful mother is much worse, and that it is hard to clean and declutter. Your “normal” friend may have a history to overcome, and may be more understanding than you know.
PS I identify as a slob.
Dana, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH! just saying, love you lots. I finish your sentences. I can not wait to meet you in person and Ill be that person that just hugs you and acts like you know me too!!! I just know it cuz our God made us to think this way and we are needed in this world.
love you lots. thank you for being open and sharing your heart. its healing.
Blessings from TX