• Home
  • Get Started!
  • Speaking
  • Blog
    • Cleaning
    • decluttering
    • organization
    • All posts
  • Podcast
  • Books
    • Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House
      • Claim Your Pre-Order Bonuses
    • Organizing for the Rest of Us
    • Decluttering at the Speed of Life
    • How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind
  • Video
  • Shortcut Solutions
    • Live Classes with Decluttering Coaches
    • Take Your House Back
    • 14 Days to Opening Your Front Door to Guests e-book
    • Make Dinner Happen
    • The 5 Day Clutter Shakedown Video Course
    • Printable Checklists E-Book from A Slob Comes Clean
    • Teaching Kids to Clean e-book
    • Giving God the Worst of Me - free e-book
    • My Book Publishing Journey
  • Decluttering Coaches

Dana K. White

A SLOB COMES CLEAN

Reality-Based Cleaning, Decluttering, & Organizing

 

  • About
  • Contact
  • TV & Media

  • Home
  • Get Started!
  • Speaking
  • Blog
    • Cleaning
    • decluttering
    • organization
    • All posts
  • Podcast
  • Books
    • Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House
      • Claim Your Pre-Order Bonuses
    • Organizing for the Rest of Us
    • Decluttering at the Speed of Life
    • How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind
  • Video
  • Shortcut Solutions
    • Live Classes with Decluttering Coaches
    • Take Your House Back
    • 14 Days to Opening Your Front Door to Guests e-book
    • Make Dinner Happen
    • The 5 Day Clutter Shakedown Video Course
    • Printable Checklists E-Book from A Slob Comes Clean
    • Teaching Kids to Clean e-book
    • Giving God the Worst of Me - free e-book
    • My Book Publishing Journey
  • Decluttering Coaches
Videos
Blog
Podcast
Products & Courses
Books
About
Decluttering Coaches

From Our Mailbox: A Reader Who Finds the Courage to Have “The Conversation”

July 6, 2015 By Dana White | 3 Comments

  • 97shares
  • 87
  • 0
  • 10

from our mailbox a reader finds courage to have the conversation about clutter at aslobcomesclean.com

Today’s Reader Story: A reader tells exactly how she mentally worked through her potentially overwhelming clutter scenario and shares her victory in managing a well-meaning friend and her hand-me-downs.

ASlobComesClean.com - From Our Mailbox

Dear Dana,

You don’t know me, but I just listened to all your 30 minute podcast episodes and have now started on your blogcasts – which are a dream come true – being able to “read” a blog while decluttering my house! Anyways, I couldn’t resist telling you about the conversation I had today.

A friend gave me a bag of workout clothes that are too small for her because I’d said I could use them. And I do need workout clothes – for the last couple months, I’ve been attending workouts 3 times a week and only own 1 pair of workout shorts . . . However, I also knew there was a good chance not everything she was giving me would fit me. I started to just take the bag, but then heard you (cause you’re totally in my head now) reminding me that I needed to have “the conversation,” so I said: “Thank you! I’ll try them on and then should I just go ahead and donate whatever doesn’t fit?” She was going on about how cute some of the tops are and that everything was in great condition, so I was a little nervous, but said it anyway. She said “yeah, you can just pass them on to someone else.” I replied “ok, or if I don’t have anyone to give them to I’ll probably give them to my son’s preschool because they have an ongoing fundraiser that takes clothes, but only clothes that are in really good condition for resale, so these would be good.” And do you know what? Not only did she say she was fine with that, she happily said that she had a bag of clothes she’d gathered too late for our school’s Goodwill drive, so she’d go through it and give me whatever was good enough to send to the preschool!
I then came home and – in spite of my inclination to put it off – tried on the clothes. I’m a little nervous that she’ll be upset next time I see her when I admit I didn’t keep much, but keep reminding myself that we already talked about it. I found a shirt and pants I like, 2 shirts that I’m going to try for one workout and then either keep or donate, and the rest is sitting by my door waiting to get dropped off when I pick up my son. Although it just occurred to me as I’m typing this that I don’t really NEED 3 more workout shirts when I’ve been managing just fine with the 2 I already home.  Hmph. Okay, as soon as I’ve given the new shirts each a trial run, I’ll pick my 3 favorites of the 5 I now own and get rid of the other 2. I wrote it to you, so now I have to actually do it, right?
. . . I’ve gained hope for the massive decluttering facing me, and I love listening to you while I work.
Blessings,
{from a girl who has new workout clothes and no clutter guilt!}
 And in her follow-up message she writes:
Here’s the end of the story: I saw her that afternoon and told her I’d tried on the clothes . . . I told her I was going to try them for a workout, then get rid of them if they didn’t feel right and she thought that was a great plan. To sum up: she was not only fine with my choosing to donate most of what she gave me, she completely supported my decisions. So now I have a new workout outfit and no new clutter or guilt. Thank you Dana for teaching me to have the conversation that made this a completely positive experience!
P.S. I finished reading Drowning in Clutter – loved it! I also bought Teaching Kids to Clean – going to try to read it in the month I have left before they get out of school so I can start getting my act together before trying to bring them in. I’m making my oldest pick a laundry day (she does the kid laundry) and thinking maybe I’ll try to make her laundry day my bathroom day ;).

So proud of her for having the courage to step out of her comfort zone ‘have the conversation’ with her friend. It’s so simple, but makes a huge difference for those of us who struggle with oh-so-many reasons to hesitate when decluttering! What decluttering successes have you had recently?

You might also want to check out my books: How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind and Decluttering at the Speed of Life.
Courage to Have The Conversation about Clutter and Hand Me Downs at ASlobcomesClean.com(1)

Related Posts:

Read Newer Post From Our Mailbox: A Reader Stands Up Against “Guilt” Clutter
Read Older Post The Wonder of 5 Minute Pick Ups – a Guest Post

Filed Under: clothing, reader stories Tagged With: From Our Mailbox | 3 Comments

Comments

  1. Kayla @ Shoeaholicnomore says

    July 7, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Yay! That’s definitely a win.

    Reply
  2. Debbie says

    July 8, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    I am not like her at all. I have clothes I can’t wear and probably never will be able to wear again. I have all the clothes my kids have ever worn too. I don’t get rid of much at all. I truly needed to find this site and need to read and listen to a few podcasts.

    Reply
  3. Kit says

    October 22, 2024 at 6:12 am

    I’m in the midst of a slow, nebulous kitchen declutter of my 2nd-priority storage zones. However, a recent incident with Spouse was the perfect opportunity to take some long- considered steps forward.

    Spouse’s current granola & Daughter’s current cold cereal are stored in containers above the range hood. Their backup cereals were stored across the kitchen behind the cases of soda. I was proactively replacing their cereals when they ran low/out.

    But I missed one time, and Spouse tried to replace his own. He couldn’t find it hidden behind the soda on the other side of the room. I decided to make changes.

    1. Declutter & consolidate baking ingredients
    2. Move oils & vinegars from other shelf above range hood onto former baking shelf
    3. Move backup cereals onto former oils & vinegars shelf
    4. Move pitcher & travel mug from pots & pans shelf to behind sodas
    5. Switch savory herbs & spices with sweet baking spices & extracts, bringing them down a shelf to be more accessible for everyday cooking
    6. Move large mixing bowls, sifter & icing bowls to empty back of decluttered pantry shelf
    7. Declutter glass baking dishes
    8. Move colanders to front of former baking dish shelf for easier access
    9. Discuss with roommates the idea of decluttering baking pans and storing them flat

    Sometime in the next few months, we’ll tackle the baking pans shelves and silverware and utensil drawers. In the meantime, I’ll continue to use-it-up my extra pantry ingredients and ponder the next phase of pantry management. Surely there’s a more functional way to stock canned vegemeats – hopefully in the kitchen itself.

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Want solutions to your biggest decluttering problems?

Get my newsletter and we'll start by teaching you how to declutter without making a bigger mess.
* = required field

Popular Posts

Why-I-Have-To-Run-My-Dishwasher-Every-Single-Night-at-ASlobComesClean.com sidebar
Five Truths about a Clean Kitchen even without a dishwasher at ASlobComesClean.com sidebar
How to Clean a Messy House at ASlobComesClean.com sidebar

Topics:

blogcast Cleaning daily checklist decluttering failures figuring myself out kitchen laundry Menu Plan Monday organization parenting podcasts progress random stories reader stories recipes sponsored posts Uncategorized

  • About
  • PR/Advertising
  • Privacy Policy
  • Disclosure
  • Contact
Search

  • About
  • Contact
  • TV & Media

© Dana K. White | Site by Little Leaf Design