The fact that my husband “gets” me has always been one of my favorite things about him. And considering that my sense of humor sometimes produces blank stares and/or courtesy laughs when unleashed on the general public, that means a lot.
Yesterday was our thirteenth wedding anniversary. Every year, on (or around) our anniversary, we write in a journal. We started it on our first wedding anniversary, and it’s fun to read what we’ve written in previous years. We have various lists where we record places we traveled, funny things that happened, difficult things, etc.
The first category each year is “things we’ve learned about each other.” On Anniversary #1, the list was several pages long. Now . . . it’s more difficult to think of new things we’ve learned.
Which means we also get more philosophical than the “he drinks his coffee black” type revelations of the first year.
Last year, one of his answers was my very favorite ever. He said, “I’ve finally realized you’re not messy on purpose. You really do try hard. It’s just how your brain works.”
Or something like that. (I do NOT feel like going to dig out the journal right now.)
Anyway, however he said it was exactly how I needed to hear it. It all boils down to the fact that he gets me. He has always been nice about my messiness and supportive of my quirks, but to know that he understands (after twelve years of marriage and two years of soul-baring-blogging) . . . makes me love him even more.
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Lola Jane says
And part of that is because of this blog, right?? It helped him realize that? What a HUGE blessing. My husband does not “get” me. He doesn’t see the effort or progress, because, yes, I am getting better than I used to be. And it’s heartbreaking and discouraging. You’ve got a good one there. Congratulations to you both. 🙂
Pary Moppins says
Congratulations Ms. Nony! I love your journal tradition. What a beautiful way to look back and stir up all of those giddy feelings you had as newlyweds as well as watching your relationship mature and grow deeper roots. You both are very blessed to have each other.
Ladonna says
I love your blog and tips…it’s keeps me motivated to stop being messy and more organized…it’s the daily baby steps we take and keeping using that will get us to the state of “clean” we all strive for…
Amanda says
Aww, wish my hubby would understand. I have now read 1/2 of 28 days and I totally dig your system, so not fly lady. I am doing my one Amanda clean clean week starting today (you see I like things clean but I hate doing the daily things to keep it up, I’d rather leave it and go to town all at once, however I simply do not have that time anymore). Anyway after my week I am starting your 28 days on July 1 and then I will read the kid book. THANK YOU and happy anniversary!