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February 24, 2010 By Dana White | 74 Comments

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In this process of “coming clean,” decluttering has made the biggest impact.

I’ve said many times that I’m in no position to give advice. I’m a slob who is working hard to change and I share my struggles on this blog. I’m figuring out what works for me and hopefully that can help someone else figure out what works for them.

In the past, when I would look at a drawer-full, or a closet-full, or a room-full of junk, I’d get overwhelmed. I could do the big stuff, but when it got down to those potentially useful items, I was stuck. All of the “what ifs” would flood my mind and it was hard to let go of things.

While decluttering kitchen drawers last month (which were completely full of junk), I came up with two simple decluttering questions.

I’ve seen lists before. You know, the ones where you ask yourself a series of questions to decide if you should keep something or chuck it. I think that these will be the questions I’ll ask myself after my house is de–slobified. In my mind, they’re maintenance questions, decluttering questions for normal people. But I don’t have time to spend 5 minutes per item. I have (had) rooms full of stuff, so I have to be able to work quickly to keep from getting distracted.

Like I said, I don’t want to act like some kind of expert, but these two questions have helped me and have inspired quite a few comments from people who say they’ve helped them as well. So I thought I’d put them in their own post.

2 decluttering questions

The two questions are:

If I needed this item, where would I look for it? (take it there)

If I needed this item, would it ever occur to me that I already have one? (If not, get rid of it because I’d just buy a new one if I needed it.)

If I ever achieve “normal person” status, I will need those long lists of questions to make decisions about tough items. But as long as I need to get rid of 7/10 of all the stuff in this house, I need a shorter list. One that doesn’t contribute to my feeling overwhelmed.

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  1. Lenetta @ Nettacow says

    February 24, 2010 at 5:07 am

    Thumbs up – I love those questions!!

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  2. Mama Melissa says

    February 24, 2010 at 3:24 pm

    what great questions!! 🙂 that's a perfect attitude about items we use. that way you can know if you can get rid of it, or if you really do need it. 🙂

    Melissa

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  3. Becky says

    February 24, 2010 at 5:42 pm

    I've had that "list of questions" taped to my desk hutch for months, hoping it would motivate me to start decluttering. No such luck. I'll have to give your two great questions a try. Maybe that's what I was waiting for 🙂

    Reply
  4. Mom2fur says

    February 24, 2010 at 6:12 pm

    I especially like that first one!

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  5. too Blessed to Stress says

    February 25, 2010 at 12:40 am

    That first wuestion is a hoot… but so true! just take it there. Awesome questions for my decluttering process as well 🙂

    ~ Emily N. from "too Blessed to Stress"

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  6. Erin says

    February 25, 2010 at 3:30 am

    Perfect questions. I can so, so, so relate to the frustration of decluttering! Thank you for sharing!

    Reply
  7. Melissa says

    February 25, 2010 at 10:54 pm

    You're doing a great job! I've really enjoyed reading of the progress you're making…and even of the struggles.

    And the best advice comes not from those with head knowledge, but from those who have been there, done that.

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  8. TJ says

    October 9, 2010 at 6:42 pm

    LOVE those questions. Every time I asked myself if I had used something in the past 6 months, year, etc., I would think, "Well, I would have if I'd known where it was!" Which of course then meant that I'd keep it anyway, right where it was, and continue to be overwhelmed. Your first question actually involves forward motion without the guilt/shame. Question 2 confuses me though… maybe because it feels like I already have everything?!

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  9. Lauren H. says

    December 4, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    The other question that can be asked is "If I am going to keep it to use it, WHY would I store it?!" I donno WHY I would throw everyday things into a storage bin and hide it into a closet…pens, erasers, scissors, tissues…really? LOL!

    Lauren

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  10. Lacy @ Catholic Icing says

    May 10, 2011 at 6:51 pm

    I love how you refer to "normal people". Whenever we make the house really clean (like for company or something) we call it "normal people clean". Because "clean for us" is a totally different thing. 😛

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  11. Enjoy Birth says

    May 30, 2011 at 5:25 pm

    Those are great questions! Especially the first one. That will help me know where to actually put some things!!!

    Reply
  12. Amanda says

    March 19, 2012 at 2:10 pm

    My favorite question for decluttering is: Would I buy this item, FULL PRICE, if I didn’t have it already?

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    • Kelly Jane Kovar says

      October 14, 2016 at 4:32 pm

      Oh that is a GOOD question Amanda. Of course, I would virtually never buy anything at full price. Working in retail for six years made me too aware of mark-ups, and sale schedules. But, the concept of “would I buy this today?” is the one I have just started using with clothing decluttering. Its dynamite!

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      • Carrie Doty says

        April 3, 2022 at 5:06 am

        Wow! I will definitely add your awesome question “would I buy this today” immediately as I’am just now started to declutter my sewing/craft studio. I worked in retail for over 40 years and rarely ever paid full price for anything.

        Reply
    • Tina Ciotola says

      July 27, 2023 at 2:35 pm

      great question 🙋🏻‍♀️

      Reply
  13. Lothelena says

    June 1, 2013 at 5:03 am

    Today I decluttered a box of junk I’ve been moving around my house for at least 3 years. I’m pretty excited. I actually gasped out loud when I saw the bottom of it. And since I actually did put/throw things away as I went (thanks to the space time continuum post) it isn’t just spread in piles on my bed. Joy.

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    • Deb says

      December 1, 2016 at 9:24 am

      OK, I think I need to also read the space time continuum post! Where can I find that? Thanks!!!

      Reply
  14. Kristy K. James says

    August 16, 2013 at 1:48 am

    I haven’t gotten to the place where I need to ask those questions yet (but I will get there). Right now everything is pretty clear cut, and things are much improved. So much so that my son…my AUTISTIC son…told me tonight that I need to get rid of a bunch of stuff in the cooking utensil drawer…that there were too many things in it. To give you an idea of what a breakthrough this is, this is the same kid who asked me if I got a new purse….about SIX WEEKS AFTER I replaced my black purse with a bright PINK one. A bright pink purse I’d been carrying every day since I bought it. He just doesn’t notice anything…but he’s noticing clutter now…and he doesn’t like it. (now if he would just apply it to the county dump that is his room!) 🙂

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  15. Kelekona says

    December 2, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    Despite the junk, I have an amazing mind for what I already have. My most recent duplicate purchase was frozen green beans. I waited three years for my mother to find the heat-gun rather than buy my own.

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    • Kelekona says

      December 2, 2013 at 6:24 pm

      The inverse of this is that having certain items keeps me from even looking at coupons, much less get another on-sale.

      Reply
  16. Mary says

    December 28, 2013 at 9:01 am

    Love these questions, simple and to the point! I’ll use them backwards though, because if the answer to the second question is that I’m going to toss the item, I don’t want to have to think where it would go if I was keeping it AND take it there. 🙂

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    • Tracy says

      October 13, 2015 at 5:37 pm

      I agree! I’m a pack rat at heart. Putting all this stuff “away” is what got me into this predicament of having more stuff than I can handle. I have to first decide whether I’m going to keep an item, then put it in its home.
      Thanks for all your encouragement, Dana!

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    • Tina Ciotola says

      July 27, 2023 at 2:37 pm

      👍

      Reply
  17. Amaris Freier says

    October 18, 2014 at 11:53 am

    Great questions! With the mess that is my home, they are the simple solution I can use to de-clutter and survive the process 😛

    Reply
  18. Traci says

    January 10, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    My favorite question is:

    If I couldn’t donate it (because it’s that old, junky, ugly, worn out,stained, etc,) why is it still in my house? LOL 🙂

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    • Not Alone says

      February 11, 2015 at 6:29 pm

      Good question. :-/

      Reply
    • Jennifer says

      December 29, 2015 at 11:29 am

      That’s a great question too! I’m gonna write that one down as well. Thanks Traci 🙂

      Reply
  19. Jo Diehl says

    April 30, 2015 at 11:14 am

    I can’t begin to tell me how life-changing your blog has been to me since I started following it about a year ago–who knew there was an hope for this 65-yo “slob”?

    Your 2 questions: I totally get the 1st one & am learning to automatically use it. The 2nd question, though, isn’t as clear for me. If I’m currently looking at the object, then obviously I know I have it & assume I’ll remember I do if it’s in the right place (per ques #1). What am I missing?

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    • Dana White says

      April 30, 2015 at 4:44 pm

      Technically, it is a question of “did” you remember you have it. Was it a total surprise when you found it? So the key is this: If you didn’t know that you had it, you’d never have looked for it. You’d have gone out and purchased another one. Then you would have two. Does that help?

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      • Caryn Glaser says

        July 27, 2023 at 12:16 pm

        Oh my goodness yes that definitely helps! I have been struggling to understand this question #2 for a few months and never quite understood it enough to make is stick. Now that you rephrased it, I really understand and can look at my clutter and just ask two questions (or just #1) to make the decision.

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    • Linda says

      April 5, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      I think the answer may be that like me, you think you’ll remember it and you may…but then the search begins because if I even do remember it, I won’t remember where I stored it anyway by the time it’s needed. I once had an almost photographic memory, I could close my eyes and picture where I had seen a certain thing. I have fibromyalgia now and many other health issues, I can sometimes still do that, but not almost every time any more. Oops I didn’t see you’d already been responded to on your question, I hoped I added clarification if nothing else and if my thoughts don’t apply to you, we are neither any the worse off. Good luck and enjoy the decluttering! 🙂

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  20. Katia says

    June 20, 2015 at 6:11 pm

    I LOVE THEM!!!

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  21. Nina Williamson says

    August 17, 2015 at 4:22 am

    I found your approach refreshing! AND LIBERATING! That is exactly how I think! I didn’t realize till I read the post that I declutter smaller areas that way all the time–my purse, my teaching notebook, etc. Don’t know why I didn’t think of doing the same thing with my house. THANK YOU!

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    • Linda says

      April 5, 2016 at 1:32 pm

      I love your response Nina, I hadn’t thought of doing all the little things on an ongoing basis. I was really just considering the “big jobs”. Thanks for posting!

      Reply
  22. Lydia purple says

    December 3, 2015 at 4:53 am

    Just found this quote made me think of your deck uttering questions.

    “Effective tidying involves only two essential actions: discarding and deciding where to store things. Of the two, discarding must come first.”
    Marie Kondo in The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

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  23. Jennifer says

    December 29, 2015 at 11:38 am

    Excellent questions! I’m writing them down now and am going to post them on my refrigerator so that everytime I walk by it, it wil click my mind into “declutter/cleaning” mode. Thank you!

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  24. Donata says

    January 21, 2016 at 1:18 pm

    Do you have any advice, serious advice, for people like me who really cannot manage to give away my dead mother’s clothes? I am an only child, and they do remind too many dear and lovely moments of my life. I ‘ll have to spend my future life alone, because I am not married and I don’t have children, so at the moment they really mean a lot to me. They are still there in her wardrobe after 9 years, and even if I’d like to put them in another place, I’m afraid that my old father could be too sorry for that. Thanks, and sorry for my bad English, which is not my Language 🙂

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    • Donata says

      January 21, 2016 at 1:20 pm

      P.S.: I feel the same about a few little things of my childhood, I could never ever throw them away! <3

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    • Dana White says

      January 21, 2016 at 8:18 pm

      Donata, I have not been through what you have experienced, and I can’t even imagine your grief. I am so sorry for your loss. I have this post with some ideas: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2014/03/how-to-deal-with-sentimental-clutter/

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      • Donata says

        January 22, 2016 at 3:57 am

        Thank you so much!! <3 Anyway it may be a different experience for every single person, I think.

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    • Sharon says

      April 28, 2017 at 9:03 pm

      Perhaps you could make (or get someone to make) a quilt? That way you have the memories and a useful warm blanket

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    • unmowngrass says

      November 10, 2018 at 11:19 am

      Having a friend help you really will help here, I think. Don’t touch the things yourself, because psychologically we are more inclined to cling to things we are already holding, and then close your eyes/turn your back to your wardrobe whilst your friend describes the item to you. You should be guided pretty quickly to a keep/donate decision here (don’t second guess yourself), especially if you’re not allowed to open your eyes, or if you have to hold your breath, until you’ve made a decision. That way the really special things will still be kept, but there’s not so much that it’s overwhelming.

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  25. Kelly Jane Kovar says

    October 14, 2016 at 4:39 pm

    These are the questions I use.
    1) What is it? ~ Defining the item out loud or in my head helps me face if its worth finding a home for it. If it is trash or donate that’s a quick fix. If it is an item I need/want I go to #2.
    2) Does it have a place? ~ If its “yes” then I take it there. If its “no” I think of what the logical place to keep it is.

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  26. Sharon says

    April 28, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    My first question is “do I need this?” And the second is “what is the worst thing that would happen if I got rid of this?”

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    • Pat C. In PA says

      July 27, 2023 at 8:16 am

      Really good questions too! Thanks. I’m saving these to use along with Dana’s. Of course, the “container rule” rules with wanting to keep things we believe we need.

      Reply
  27. Barbara says

    March 23, 2018 at 5:15 am

    These are great questions. As I look around at my container and realize that I have no concept of the actual size of my container I know I have to ask these questions but my mind falls on another question. What if the answer to the first question is I would look for this item in the office but there isn’t any room in the office? And it isn’t a visible space so it isn’t an area I’ve tackled. And adding more to that space doesn’t make sense to me. So I do nothing which doesn’t solve the problem. How do I stop the circular reference and make progress?

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    • Dana White says

      May 24, 2018 at 4:09 pm

      https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2015/04/how-to-not-get-distracted-from-a-decluttering-project-by-other-decluttering-projects/

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  28. Erika Ward says

    April 6, 2018 at 5:09 am

    What if the answer to the second question is yes? 🤔

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    • Dana White says

      May 24, 2018 at 4:08 pm

      Then you put it in the first place you’d look for it. The answer to question number one.

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  29. Leslie says

    May 24, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    Great questions! The place I really run into issues is when I find things I don’t want anymore, but they’re not good enough to donate, but don’t seem bad enough to throw away. What do you do with that stuff? Or am I just crazy?

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    • Dana White says

      May 24, 2018 at 4:06 pm

      If they really aren’t good enough to donate, then they are trash. But if you’re talking about clothing, there are some donation places that take imperfect (but clean) clothes to sell to ragmakers.

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  30. Claire says

    August 1, 2018 at 7:22 am

    Please help me with question #1.
    If I needed the item, take it there. WHERE? I have never remotely mastered a place for everything and everything in its place. If the where I would look for it is in the kitchen, WHERE in the kitchen? I have 3 small drawers – one with cutlerly, one with misc. utensils (peeler, corkscrew, large spoons, etc.), and last a junk drawer– all are full. I keep spatulas in a crock on counter and have a magnet strip for knives. I run into same problem in bathroom – no vanity. Just a pedestal sink and small medicine cabinet. I can’t figure out where to put stuff. I feel like if everything had a place I’d be doing sooooo much better! :\

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  31. Alanna says

    October 19, 2018 at 9:58 am

    Hi! I’m really enjoying your podcast because you sound just like me!!! I am a little confused about your declutter questions though… how does the first question help you actually declutter? In my mind, it seems like it would help me organize and clean up, but not actually get rid of anything. Maybe I’m not understanding..

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  32. Terry Willibrand says

    November 9, 2018 at 3:21 am

    I just turned 80, and I have lived all my life wanting to have the perfectly clean house!. I just started reading your podcast, and on episode 1, realized I never will. Sad, but you are my twin sister from another Mother! I am up to episode 17. I listen every night and
    the problems you’ve had, are the problems I’ve had all my life.
    My Mother would say, “Terry, just
    pick up your clothes and make your bed. You don’t need to clean the speck on your window”
    But if I hadn’t cleaned my room to perfection, I felt I failed.
    I wish I’d discovered your realization when I was your age.
    Anyway, I’m enjoying your blog,
    and may still put your concepts
    into use…it’s never too late!
    Thank you dear

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  33. Sheryl Garvey says

    July 20, 2019 at 9:06 am

    I have read both of your books, listen to both audio books, and now listening to your blogs; and this 65 year old pack rat can’t figure out question 2!!! Can you give me another couple of examples to question 2? I love that there are only 2 questions, even though I have only been using 1, since reading your 1st book, in February of 2019!!

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  34. Michele Campbell says

    October 10, 2019 at 11:08 am

    So. You’ve completely blown my mind with these two questions. Thanks for that.

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  35. Adam says

    December 3, 2019 at 1:07 pm

    Hi Dana!

    We are in full nesting mode as we prepare for the arrival of baby #2. It’s so hard to declutter but we are holding off on adding a bunch of new baby stuff. Our 2 will be 2 years apart so it’s a struggle to know if we’ll need a second item or if our first will outgrow said item.

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  36. Candy says

    February 4, 2020 at 9:36 am

    Love your suggestions, Dana!! My only problem is that I have a huge pile of your emails in my inbox that I can’t seem to get to….

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  37. Kim says

    February 5, 2020 at 3:21 pm

    Hi Dana! I have both of your books on Audible & have listened to each of them several times (whenever I need motivation to get started cleaning or decluttering I turn one on & they get me going every time!). I originally bought the books a couple years ago because my home of 15 years was cluttered to the point where I was so overwhelmed that I felt paralyzed & I couldn’t figure out how to start to begin to dig myself out of the mess. Your books helped me to slowly, but surely, start to work thru the chaos & I was finally beginning to feel empowered by the progress I was making! But then on Nov 30, 2018 I got a phone call that turned my whole world upside down. My husband (36) was working as a paramedic taking a patient (also 36) to Vanderbilt in Nashville, TN & the ambulance hydroplaned on the interstate. My husband (who was in the back with the patient) & the patient both died in the accident. Our 2 kids & I just couldn’t go back home after that night so we stayed with my parents for a few months & then moved into a new house. Now 14 months later I have only been back to our old house a few times to get necessities, but still have almost an entire house full of things to go thru & clear out. Now I’m faced with the overwhelming task of cleaning out the old house while trying to keep up with daily tasks at the new house & raising our 2 kids alone, one of which has autism. Just wondering if maybe you might possibly have some ideas or suggestions to help me get started in this unique situation? Any help at all would be so very much appreciated! And thank you so much for what you do in helping others to find their way out of the chaos so they can live better lives!

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    • Cindy R. says

      August 28, 2023 at 11:05 pm

      Years later I ran across this post and your comment. I just wanted to give you a giant hug and I hope you have been able to find a bit of peace. I lost my older son unexpectedly this year and I feel like no one can truly understand that kind of pain without having felt it oneself.

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  38. Sandra says

    September 5, 2020 at 5:19 pm

    Here’s where I get lost-
    #1. Would I know where to look for it?
    If yes -> Take it there
    If no -> Go to #2
    ——I have no clue where I would look for it.
    ……….So I go to #2
    .
    #2: Would it occur to me that I already had one?
    If no -> recycle bin
    If yes -> Go to question 2
    —–It would occur to me that I had this. In fact, I just used it the other day.
    ……….So I go to #1
    .
    #1: Would I know where to look for this?
    —–I would look for it where I was standing the last time it was in my hand. I was just standing there with it in my hand because I have no idea where the &*%$ thing belongs. Or, I do have a place my mind goes to, but it’s just not logistically acceptable.
    ………So I go to #2?
    Eventually I’m either interrupted or defeated and it gets left somewhere near where I was standing.

    I have a LOT of stuff like this. Some examples:
    -The cake dish that I need and use multiple times a year that just ends up sitting on the counter after it’s finally washed.
    -My backpack that I use for walks that I can’t leave anywhere accessible to my dog because his training treats are in it (It had a hook by the door, but the hook got pulled off the wall when he pulled down my backpack) and now just gets moved to someplace the dog is not.
    -The stick vacuum that I sometimes put away in the hall linen closet which, like all the other little cabinety closets, has just enough open space in front of the shelves to fit either the vacuum OR the steam mop with the door closed, so instead it just gets leaned up against a wall or whatever.

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    • Dana White says

      September 5, 2020 at 5:55 pm

      Question 1 is not “ Would I know where to look for it?” It is “where would I look for this first?” There’s a huge difference. Check out my books for the deep dive into using and applying the questions https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/book. Or I talk a lot about this in my podcasts. https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/podcasts

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  39. Nikki A. Ruggles says

    October 22, 2020 at 3:37 pm

    Hey! its working!! When I took the Decluttering seminar a couple week? Months? ago.I was soooo discouraged by the seminar, that told me to pull eveything out and put it on the table, counter or floor. What Table? What counter? What Floor? Those places were already too cluttered to leave anything. I didn’t need it to get worse. I needed better. Plus, that made it a whole day?, week?, Year? project Then I read in your book, “How to manage your home without losing your mind” Start small, do the easy stuff first. (not sure, if it was your book) set a timer, 15 minutes. I was amazed how much I could do in that small amount of time. First, My kitchen table got clean. As soon as I started finding homes or throwing out my stuff, My husband did too! OOOh my table was brown, had water spots and lots of bubbles and scratches. SO, I had to keep it clean for 2 weeks while I refinished it. Now it’s beautiful. But I have to keep it cleaned off so I can enjoy the beauty. Then I started cleaning the clutter off a wall ledge, which led to the Crock pot cabinet, which led to the drawers and the wall behind it. Now I have 8 actual drawers where there is a proper home for Measuring cups and spoon, strainers, funnels, and jars. My kitchen counter magically appeared after all these years. I’m still working on that. Hey here’s a measuring cup, ooo it has a home. Now I can put away all these homeless Kitchen utensils, or give it away. I’m 66 years old. you would think I would have discovered this stuff long ago. But I’ve always worked, which was my excuse for ignoring the pile. Also, Im so easily distracted. The timer keeps me on track. If I get sidetracked, thats ok. Ill work at it some more tomorrow morning, when hunger or coffee forces me back into the kitchen. Thanks for your wonderful Hints and terrific humor. I no longer insist that my house is perfect. Better each day, is good enough.

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  40. Ml haskell says

    June 12, 2021 at 7:51 am

    These are brilliant. Way more helpful for me than the joy kinda questions (no slam intended the on MK system). I spent an hour working with your questions, and I found we have:
    5 sets of kitchen scissors
    4 mini hoards of furniture protectors (pads, bumpers, glides, etc).
    3 places where we store coffee mugs
    3 identical TV remotes
    5 locations where cleaning supplies are stored
    And finally, no room is free of small tools (wrenches, screwdrivers, etc.) or craft items (glue, paper, yarn, fabric, paint, etc).
    How much more of my brain will be freed of a sense of low level chaos and anxiety when I have one place and one place only for all these things?

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  41. Sherry says

    January 21, 2022 at 10:14 pm

    Just discovered you and your brilliance this week. In two days you have already improved my home and my mood. Just by keeping dishes done and counters clear I am feeling soooo much better. Am really looking forward to learning much more from you. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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  42. Anne says

    February 19, 2022 at 12:28 am

    First, thank you. You come from a place of understanding how people like me think and how dejected we feel. Your book, blogs and videos are practical, humorous, engaging and helpful! Hooray! I love this first question and like others I’m realizing that I have multiples of things that I can easily move out of my house. But the second question is confusing to me. If I find a pair of gardening gloves or face paint or an extension cord (or 100 other things), then I’ve found and seen them and know I have them. Shouldn’t I just put them in the first place I’d look for them and then apply your container principle? Which has really altered my thinking by the way – great insight to help me move toward decluttering. I feel like I’m really missing something here and since there are only 2 questions, I want to understand both of them! And I’d get rid of the face paint since my kids are in college. Just saying.

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  43. Sarah says

    April 6, 2022 at 11:13 am

    I just finished reading Declutter at the Speed of Life. And I’m ready to start. I’m running into a block with the first question. The first place I would look for the scissors is in the giant pile o stuff on the kitchen counter. Because it’s been somewhere in some pile on the counter for years. My instinct is to put it in a keep pile to deal with after I finish decluttering, but I know that won’t work for me. Any suggestions?

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  44. Judy Bee says

    July 27, 2023 at 8:30 am

    Best two questions ever. Thanks, Dana.

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  45. Nancy says

    July 27, 2023 at 9:42 am

    I have been using these questions for several years and have found them very helpful, particularly #1. In my previous efforts to clean, I sometimes stuffed random items in drawers and closets. Of course that isn’t where I go to look for them. Every time I find myself saying, “There you are!”, I immediately take it to where I looked for it and couldn’t find it. It has helped a lot.

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  46. Pat A Weiser says

    July 27, 2023 at 9:20 pm

    I’m astonished that a muffin tin would be donated, as I make muffins so often I have 2 pans! If something is expensive to replace (like that springform pan Dana donated) I would hang onto it. Recently, we started on the garage. I had forgotten I still had boxes from my mother’s house to go through. Oy. So much is sentimental, from my childhood (I’m 75) and hold so many memories. There are also some pretty nifty toys.I like to look at stuff before I toss it, but then it ends up in my house and sits there. I think I’m hopeless!

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  47. Rebecca Lake says

    March 1, 2024 at 4:21 pm

    Hi Dana,
    I just want to tell you again how much I appreciate you and your genius methods. I’ve struggled with clutter and disorganization all my life, often feeling overwhelmed. By learning from Decluttering at the Speed of Life (which I listen to on Audible), I’ve come to actually enjoy decluttering! Taking each thing to where it belongs, or the donate box, helps me get my steps in. It’s almost relaxing, and then, voila! The space looks better.
    I just read a really stupid article online about deep decluttering one room a month for a year, starting with the kitchen in January (OK), then next storage areas like the attic in February (noooo!!!), then moving on to bathroom, with living area saved for November. Haven’t they ever heard of the visibility rule? (Eye roll.) It’s this kind of article that held me back for years because I never had one month to deep clean my attic.
    My mom recently passed away at 94 and I have some of her possessions now in my house. My disabled son moved to a new home, and more possessions to sort. I haven’t fully recovered from moving myself less than two years ago while working and finishing an MA. Your methods are keeping me sane!
    Sending love,
    Rebecca

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  48. Faith T Evans says

    July 11, 2024 at 9:27 am

    Hi Dana, thank you so much for all your “slob insights”!! I hear ya!
    Here’s my problem – your first question.. What if I DON’T KNOW WHERE an item should go? I find myself putting items in any available space because I don’t really have a definite space for them, and so I don’t always know where I would look for that item if I needed it. And I’m talking about items that I definitely need to keep – not just ” pretty /sentimental /why do I ever have that in my house?” stuff. Help.

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  49. Susie says

    September 11, 2024 at 2:15 pm

    Most decluttering/organizing helpers agree that everything should be kept where you use it — tablecloths in the dining room, rather than with the bath linens, for instance. I have found that it helps me to designate one place for each very broad category of items, so all my sewing, yarn, felt, and any other fiber crafts are in *this corner of *that room. Everything plant-related is in one (otherwise underused) part of my kitchen, because there’s no other south-facing window … .

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  50. Robin says

    February 17, 2025 at 4:29 pm

    “If I needed this item, would it ever occur to me that I already have one? (If not, get rid of it because I’d just buy a new one if I needed it.)” My sad story is that yes, it would occur to me, but I wouldn’t be able to find it … because … piles, which include items I had to buy again because….

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