I’m okay with clothing as individual pieces, I even like a lot of it, but as an entire group of my family’s clothing, I despise it. Does this make me a laundrist?
Laundry overwhelms me. But since I have a moral dilemma with going to the grocery store naked, I have to deal with it.
I taught in Asia for two years. I worked with a couple who were not fat at all, but both were tall and large-boned. For some reason, the principal (a very small man) had told them before they came that they shouldn’t bring many clothes, just buy them there. Really? In Asia? I bought all of about two clothing items while there, and I was excited to find them. My roommate, a size 8-10, couldn’t even consistently find clothes that fit her.
So, I remember this woman wearing the same three outfits over and over and over and mixing and matching them all the time. I admired her so much. In fact, I was strangely jealous.
I have issues with having excess of everything, especially clothes. When I spent six weeks working at a summer camp when I was sixteen, I brought 5, yes FIVE full and over-the-weight-limit suitcases. I carried them through the airport by myself. That’s how important it was to me to have all that stuff. AND I went to town each Saturday to the laundromat. I’m guessing that I had enough clothes to wear 2 outfits a day and never repeat. Coincidentally, the camp made a rule the next summer that you could only bring two suitcases. Hmmm.
My kids have tons of clothes. I spend almost nothing on them by going to garage sales, and being the dumping ground for lots of generous, well-meaning friends with older children. Don’t worry, she’ll take them.
I need to purge my family’s clothes. I learned last year when my son started wearing a school uniform that he really did survive with about six shirts and four pairs of pants. Somehow, I kept all of those items clean. I only had to do the sniff-test two or three times in the entire year.
But when your 3 year old daughter has 24 pairs of pants, 16 skirts, 25 dresses and 56 tops, you don’t need to do laundry very often, right? Except that she loves the one shirt. And if all of those clothes are clean, they don’t fit into the drawers, and they spill out onto the floor, and are they clean or dirty, because I don’t remember her wearing that, but I should probably wash it again just in case.
It’s hard to think of my clothes as clutter, but they are. I have items that I NEVER wear because they’re never clean, because I don’t love them enough to put them at the top of the laundry priority list and I’m never completely done with laundry. Why not get rid of them?
I wear the same few tops and jeans and outfits over and over and over and over. I like them. And I learned from my friend overseas that you can be normal and cool when wearing the same things more than once every two months, if they’re the things that make you look good and feel comfortable.
So why am I hanging on?
So if I’ve learned that half of the lesson, why can’t I learn the other half and get rid of all of these clothes that we don’t need?
As I work on this laundry habit, I’m purging as I go.
I’m also learning that even though we have more clothes consistently clean, we’re still wearing the same ones we like, over and over.