Can you see them in that Donate Box?
Three cute pairs of little-girl tights.
I was rather proud of myself as I grabbed those while Christmas shopping. So cute! AND practical!!
But alas, though the packaging was ripped and tossed immediately, a certain someone claims they don’t fit.
I kindof sortof believe her. Though if it were someone who didn’t have such an aversion to tightness, the verdict might be different.
They are called tights, after all.
But even though I could decide to fight this battle for warmth and cuteness, I’m choosing not to. As someone who had to mature out of my own aversion to tightness, I do understand. And I’m choosing to send these never-worn items off to someone who will love them.
Whom? Oh, I don’t care one little bit about that.
54c82044cfc9e5c32d31418302700919d15ecb3af16f890736
--Nony
You can send them to me! My little girl loves pretty tights!
Funny! Even now, I don’t like tight things. Tight does not equal comfort for me. I especially hate turtle necks “grabbing” at my throat!
Nony, I SWEAR we are twins separated at birth!! In uncanny ways, you outline the *exact* struggles that I have! I learned a while ago to donate clothes that don’t fit my kids. But I *STILL* struggle to donate the ones that *I* like, or that I think SHOULD fit my kids–just like these tights you describe! Items that *I* would love to see on my kids sit in their drawers. Meanwhile, they run around in the same old clothes that they love each day, and when it comes time to put away clean laundry (the actual clothes that the WEAR!) there is no room in the drawers because of all the clothes that I want them to be wearing! How stupid is that??
So, I’m learning to do just what you did: cut my losses and donate the stuff right away. I’ve also learned something else from this. In about 10% of cases I actually have to do the OPPOSITE. What is that, you may ask? I have to donate the item that doesn’t fit, *even though* my kid still loves/wears it. Most of the time, I’ll let them wear it until they can’t get it on any longer. But if an item really is awful/makes them look bad/is worn out/is going to get them made fun of, etc. I’ll toss/donate it so they can start to wear those nice clothes that are just sitting in the drawer. But I’ve learned that if I don’t get rid of the too-tight high-waters that my kid favors, they are never going to wear those nice clothes that I’ve invested in. But this option is less frequent than ME having to cut my losses.
My 7 year old son who wears a 7/8 still squeezes himself into size 4 PJs that he loves. They used to be pants and are now capris and the shirt comes only halfway down his belly. Very funny! However, for the *clothes* I did go through and take out ALL the size 4s and 5s before he even looked at them because I was sure he would find a reason to keep them! He is not much for letting go!
Good for you for picking your battles. If they don’t fit you must acquit. LOL!
I can remember my mom getting rid of stuff that I loved. finding the bag and putting it all on. stuff would go missing for so long I never would ask my mom where stuff was I would miss it I mean if I needed the scissors or tape I would ask for them but that one skirt that was black and white checkers and full like a poodle skirt it fit better than anything else but it ended up in the bottom of the laundry pile after being only worn very few times and then it went bye bye though I know it wouldn’t fit now I am just a little sad still 20 years later. I think it still fit when my mom got rid of it. as an adult after getting married I had to move to an apartment with a half sized closet for two people instead of a walk in to myself. we each brought hangers to the marriage and stuff that needed hung up I quickly learned we needed less hangers found 40 to be the magic number which was how many white ones we had. kept enough black ones so that I could hold on to the stuff I couldn’t decided on and kept reminding myself of the 80-20 rule that says people were 20% of there clothes 80% of the time and I decided I wanted the clothes I wore 80% of the time to take up 80% of the closet and that that I wore 20% of the time to take up 20% of the closet. it took me about 15 or so tries over 4 or 5 months. the first week of marriage/living together my husband insisted that he wore all his clothes 75% or more I had not seen on him before and we had seen each other everyday of the last five months I thought he owned very little clothes and funny thing is I pretty much knew which clothes he would finally end up with but it did surprise me at which clothes that took him the longest to get ride of that he never wore once. it was so nice to get to 40 hangers and knowing that I was fallowing my 20-80 rule hangers are “containers”
Good for you! I used to hate tights when I was a kid (though I dutifully wore them) because they never felt long enough and I hated that feeling of them pulling on me. I find with my own kids they need at least the next size up from what they are supposed to have. I don’t like tight either, and I really don’t like something being “too short” even if someone else would probably be fine with the length.
my little girl LOVES adorable little-girl tights. just one problem. she hates skirts and dresses.
I struggle with not putting my own belief about items onto my kids. I struggle not to say “are you sure?” and plague them with uncertainty and my thoughts about an item. It can be very difficult, however. There are many clothes *i* feel an attachment to. Many times I remember them going to a park or a certain event in the outfit. However, I have begun to be ok with letting them go of most things. If I really cannot part with it, i make them a pillow haha!
I totally understand this, Lisa! I’ve been there so many times!