Last summer, I bought a new purse.
I went to a home party and the salesperson logic just made so much sense. And I needed a new purse.
Really. I did.
It had one feature that’s a must for me. The cross-body strap. When I lived in Thailand, my purse-buying habits changed forever. When the only way to get from place to place is public transportation, scatter-brained people like me need purses that stay attached to the body. We can’t use purses that require remembering to grab them before getting out of the taxi.
But this other strange thing happened when I bought my first no-hands purse.
I realized I liked a small purse.
The kind that makes most people say, “Oh. I could never have a purse that small” and assume I’m a minimalist.
So for the past 15 years, I’ve been rocking the micro-purse. Just big enough for a phone and a wallet and maybe some lipstick. Oh, I manage to stuff more in there than any Normal Person you’ll ever meet, but there was a limit.
Because it was small.
So, even though this purse is cute (it has DOTS!) and meets the where’s-my-purse-oh-right-it’s-hanging-on-my-body requirement and it’s not HUGE or anything, it’s too big.
Because if you give me a space, I shall fill it.
With enough stuff to completely fill a plastic shopping bag.
With enough stuff that I could no longer find ANYthing I actually needed. Enough stuff that I was embarrassed to have to dig for my wallet because randomness emerged and fell to the floor. Enough stuff that when my daughter was carrying a purse, she grabbed a receipt, got a zoned-out look on her face, mindlessly wadded it up, and stuffed it in her purse.
And then laughed.
And said she was doing what Mom does.
You could be totally logical and say I could apply the same Can’t Keep This principles that come naturally when I have a small purse to my big purse.
But that doesn’t happen around here.
Ooooohhhh, space!!!! Must fill!!! happens.
I just have to go with it.
Meet my new teeny-tiny purse. Honestly, it might be too teeny-tiny.
Edited to add:
I wrote this post earlier in the week. Now I know that blue “purse” IS too small. I’m using it, but looking for one that’s small but not teeny-tiny.
Edited to add:
I went back to the big purse TEMPORARILY because I needed to stuff it with my Kindle and some snacks for a track meet. Hmmmph.