Oh, how I love this story! When I started writing about my own struggles in my home, I truly believed I was the only person whose brain worked like mine. As people began to read my blog, I met so many who shared my struggles and challenges. Knowing I wasn’t alone helped me move forward and make real progress.
This struggle is shared by kindred spirits all over the world, by people with all kinds of backgrounds and experiences.
I hope you are inspired by this story:
Dear Dana,Warm greetings from Slovakia :).Thank you so much. Sharing your weakness has given many people a kick and helped them understand things about why they were/were not working well as a housemakers.And I am one of them. I was one creatively messy child who didn’t know how to deal with the mess I had created.
The days went on. A man and children came into my everyday life. Five small children. You can imagine the shame I felt day after day looking at my messy house and feeling like I
couldn’t keep it livable and cozy. I don’t understand why. I tried so hard and it didn’t work.I like to be inspired by other experienced people. I have gone through dozens of systems to manage the house. I couldn’t keep up with the systems. And I felt like a bigger failure.
So I found your blog and suddenly had an AHA moment.Simple. Encouraging and motivating. It didn’t offend me. I felt compassion. Normality.
I use your principles.
I’m a slow tidy slug instead of a fast efficient person who left everything unfinished behind like tornado. My husband told me that when he comes home from work in the evening and walks around the house, he knows exactly what I did all day. I left unfinished things – because of efficiency and priorities.
It’s like suddenly finding an effective treatment for your chronic pain. My husband said to me yesterday when he came home: Wow, you did a lot of work today. Me: No, I just finished everything I started.
I took the concept I-DO-THE-THINGS-THAT-WAY-I-CAN-FINISH-WORK-RIGHT-NOW- WITHOUT-SIGNS-AND -UNFINISHED- PIECES. And doing the take piles and boxes are unlawful in my house. Not anymore. I can be slow. Even with small children. Inefficient. But I know that taking the thing to the place right now is a step forward. And whatever I do will be good. No more judgments in my head.
After years I feel joy again.And when I do the mess, I know the simply way, how to rid of all the clutter.Yes, we have still common mess. We live here. But most of it is my children’s mess. Now it doesn’t mix and I don’t feel guilty about it because its not my mess ( do you understand ? ) I feel homey and cozy in my house again 🙂 🙂 .You know, Slovaks are a very hardworking and practical people. We fix things. We are frugal. However, this has also changed in recent decades, and we have filled our homes with cheap easyily broken things.I think my story can be encouraging,
Reader from Slovakia.
Thank you. Yes, your story is very encouraging.
Thank you for sharing!!! ❤️
Dana I hope this fills your heart! In your struggles you have blessed so many and have created a safe environment for those of us to work on our own deslobificaton ❤️
Congratulations on your improvement, Lady Slovak! Wow, with your hands so full, if You can do it, so can anyone.
Also remember another motto from Dana: Progress Not Perfection. It has helped me a lot.
Peace, Love, Blessings, Health and Happiness to You & Your Family!