This post contains affiliate links. But even if you don’t buy a thing, you’ll learn something from Kelly’s free sample video. This is good stuff, y’all.
I’m not a fashionista.
Please stop laughing.
But I do like to look nice. Unfortunately/fortunately, though, I’ve adopted the philosophy that I’m not supposed to look good at certain stages of life. When I taught Jr. High, I would sometimes look in the mirror and know something was “off,” but I’d tell myself that kids think teachers are dorky anyway, so I was just playing my part. I mean, I taught Theatre Arts, so I was fine with embracing the role of the Not Quite Put Together Teacher.
Sometimes this philosophy serves me very well, like in the summertime when I’m most definitely more passionate about being in the water with my kids than I am about impressing anyone with my amazing swimwear.
But I’m 42 now, and I need to look a little more put together to make up for some, ummmm, natural changes occurring in my body shape. I find myself wishing I could look more put together. When I do take a rare shopping trip, however, I get frustrated. The types of things I see others wearing (and looking adorable in) make me look ridiculous.
Unfortunately, I’ve “solved” this problem too many times by stuffing my thrift store cart full on half-price Wednesday and hoping two or three of the fifteen things I bought will look good on me.
But over the past year or so, having learned to love Less, and realizing how ridiculous it is that I ALWAYS have Donate Boxes full of clothes I dislike and closets with more to purge, I have decided I would prefer to pay more for quality pieces that look good on me instead of a myriad of meh choices.
But that decision hasn’t helped as much as I thought it would.
I still felt clueless.
And that’s why I’m excited about this course, Adore Your Wardrobe, offered by Kelly of Redefined Mom. Kelly is an over-40 fashionista friend of mine. We met at the very first blogging conference I ever attended back in 2010.
She’s smart, put together, and nice. Nice, as in helpful-in-a-way-that-doesn’t-make-you-feel-dumb.
But even though I knew she was nice and fashionable and helpful, this course still blew me away.
I’ve done three lessons so far. First, I watched the one that is free where she explains the Rule of Four. You can watch it here if you give her your email address. Basically, she explains in that video why some people look put together and some don’t. And how the people who look put together look put together.
Kelly breaks this down into math and science. She claims (and then actually explains how) it’s not about having an eye for fashion, but about understanding rules and principles. In the first two lessons, she talks about body shapes/types and how important it is to know yours. But even though I’ve heard about body types many times, I’ve always just kind of guessed at mine, and never had enough confidence in my guesses to go to the next step of figuring out what works best for the body type I kindof thought I was.
But the first thing you do in the course is get out a measuring tape and complete a worksheet that takes ALL the guesswork out of the process.
It’s cool, y’all. And I’m excited to keep going through the course.
But now for my decluttering-related sales pitch: How much would you purge from your closet if you could confidently determine which things made you look and feel great? How many fewer clothes would you buy if you only bought things you knew (for a fact) would look great on you?
A decluttering related testimonial from one of Kelly’s first students: “It was surprising how many items I wore just because instead of LOVING it. It was nice to have permission to get rid of some stuff I normally hold on to.”
I know not all of you are at the point in your deslobification process where an investment in a course like this makes sense. But some of you are, so I want you to know this resource exists.
But be aware that because Kelly is putting a lot of personal time and energy into this and leading a private Facebook group where people can share their fashion challenges and successes safely, this isn’t an open-ended course. Registration closes on the 22nd of this month and won’t open again for quite a while.
And FYI, because this is something I worried over but then felt relief about with the first lesson, Kelly is all about doing great things with the body you have right now. I’ve gained weight, and I’m very frustrated about that. I’ve often put on clothes that looked bad and thought to myself that I’ll just have to wait until I lose the weight to look decent again. Kelly is very clear that these fashion formulas help you look good no matter what your current “problem area.” I love that.--Nony