I’ve been doing this blog for a little over six weeks. (I started on the first day of school so it’s easy to know.) For the first four weeks I didn’t tell my husband. Honestly, he didn’t say much either. Even though our house was quite different, and I was a busy little bee . . . nothing.
He’s a great guy. He loves me. He totally accepts me as I am, a slob. After about four weeks, he started helping out. He’s always contributed a lot by doing loads of laundry, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning toilets when they started to smell, etc. But he started doing things like putting his coffee cup directly into the dishwasher instead of in the sink. He helped me make the bed.
And then he saw the blog pulled up on the computer. So the cat was out of the bag, but it wasn’t in the form of some big party thrown in celebration of a totally changed lifestyle. He didn’t even say anything, but I knew he saw it, so I decided to tell him.
He’s been very supportive, and he loves that I’m enjoying the blogging part of it so much. But he still doesn’t say a whole lot about it. Like me, probably even more than me, he’s waiting for it to end. For us to drift back into our old ways. I’ve said many times that that is my big fear. The more days that I do my daily tasks, the more natural they feel. Someday I hope that I’ll barely remember living in a home that totally embarrassed me. But the reality is that I will always have to work on this, for the rest of my life. I have a natural tendency to not see clutter until it is a disaster. My daily tasks are my coping mechanisms.
I can’t count on anyone’s praise to keep me going. I have to do this because it is what needs to be done and because it is part of my job as a wife and mother.
I want to also say, “Go Susan!” She made her bed today. Believe me, I know what a feat that is.
Today I:
Made bed.
Emptied dishwasher.
Remembered to make lunches.
Cleaned kitchen.
Swept kitchen.
Checked bathrooms for clutter.
Did 5 minute walk-through. (WOW does this make a difference!)
Wiped down the bathroom counters and toilets last night as soon as the kids were in bed. I think this is working much better than the random timing of last week.
Susan says
🙂 thanks! Now I'm a double dork! tehehe!
Lindsey C says
I’m loving your daily checklists, and the accountability they give you!
I just might be a total copy cat.
After 3 loads of dishes yesterday, I’m off to do my own “new” daily checklist and add in some “power cooking” (my version of OAMC). Maybe I’ll even blog about it later – if I’m not too busy packing boxes!
Jennifer says
i made my bed at 4pm yesterday afternoon. the old me would have said, if it’s after lunch time, there’s no point in making the bed. but i made myself do it anyway. and i felt sooo much better when i finally fell into bed at midnight last night
Lottie says
Hi Dana
I am reading from the beginning the second time. Partly because you told in one podcast, that you don’t know anymore when and how your husband came into your big secrets. Now I am hooked again…
I do your course with Cas and Dan, and the three of you are awesome together.
And I hear one of your podcast ore one ore more chapters of your audio books most days before I fall asleep. It helps me to not procrastinate the dishes and stay on a lifestyle of decluttering! And you are funny!
I am able to open my front door spontaneous for 3 years in a row now! After more than 50years me, and my mother bevor me, would have been horrified by the thought of it.
But it will never come natural to me.
By the way, my English has approved too!
I am looking forward to your new books.
Love Lottie