I got into bed last night and was startled to notice, AFTER getting in, that my bed was not made. I panicked. I had taken a Sunday nap, and thought maybe that was why, but could see that my husband’s side was unmade as well. I hadn’t made the bed at all yesterday, and I hadn’t noticed. That’s what brings the panic.

I’m trying so hard to keep my focus. There are times when I do make a conscious decision to ignore a mess. But the reason my home gets into a total state of disaster is that I often don’t even see messes.

I have been making my bed everyday for almost 4 weeks now. I’ve always heard that it takes 28 days to develop a new habit. I’m almost there, and yesterday I bombed. I can’t believe that I didn’t notice all day long.

What does this mean? In the past, this would have been a sign of my losing focus and the downhill slide would start. It can’t mean that this time. I am making a true effort and I’m just going to get right back onto the right track. One small failure can’t mean overall failure.

How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind is Coming in November!


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    Hey, I know this is an old post, but I just had to leave a comment. Yes, habits do take time to form, but one mistake does not make a relapse…over and over again does. Keep on plugging along and you’ll get to where you want to be eventually.

    On a side note, I just found you’re blog today and I just wanted to let you know that you’re my inspiration. I’m a slob in a family of them. There’s no real getting around that. But, because of you, I now know there’s hope and that I’m not the only one in the world who just has such a hard time keeping on top of things.

    I read these blogs and newsletters with these perfect little houses and wonderful homemakers who make fresh bread every day, cook for every meal, and never have to re-find the cleaning list they just printed out less than 5 minutes before. Me however…uh, yeah…I’m sure you get the picture.

    But, now I know there’s hop and have been inspired. I just started a blog today in order to hold myself accountable as I try to get my family and I back on track. I can’t say that I’ll always be perfect, or successful, but at least now I know it’s possible.

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    Hi Nony–One of the best things I’ve learned from reading your blog and e-books is that there’s always tomorrow. If I forget or don’t have time to do something on my daily or weekly checklists, I’ll just pick it up tomorrow, or next week. Especially the weekly stuff. This is a huge revelation for me because before I would think I could just double-up on the tasks the next day, which of course would quickly become overwhelming and I’d end up with a monthly (or quarterly) marathon cleaning session that would leave me with a lasting memory that cleaning always has to be that way.

    Also you’ve helped me see that if I do something today, or this week, then tomorrow or next week the same tasks will be so much quicker and easier!

    🙂 Mary

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    After moving it around in my office for months, I finally hung the small white board I bought to use for projects up on the door of a cabinet I’ll see every time I walk in here…which is often. Reading about checklists, and forgetting made me realize that something I can see will help, but that anything I write on paper will be ignored…because I hate paperwork. And I have a mountain of it I need to sort and shred. I mean a mountain, too. 🙂

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    I found your blog earlier this week and I am currently reading it backwards like you recommend. It really is like you are living in my head!
    I had to comment on this post because just last night I was unable to finish my non-negotiable of washing the dishes. I was so disappointed, but it was already way past my bedtime and the 4:30 am work alarm comes way too early! But, I like the way that you said that one small failure can’t mean overall failure. I am going to keep repeating that to myself whenever I have a mis-step!
    Thank you for the inspiration and encouragement!

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