On August 22nd, my identity changes.
I will no longer be a mother of pre-schoolers. Being a Stay at Home Mom will take on a new look, and a new definition. People will start to wonder (legitimately) . . . What does she do all day?
For years, I’ve dreaded this day. I love being a full-time mom with little ones by my side every. . . single . . . . moment. But I’ve also often said to myself (sometimes out loud, because that’s how I roll), that I’ll be able to do ___________ once the kids are in school.
You can fill in the blank with all sorts of things.
Bargain shop, make my own this/that/or-the-other, keep the house spotless . . .
But the reality is that I thought these same things about other phases of life.
When my room was messy in high school, I thought, “When I’m in a dorm . . . it will be easier.”
When my (half of the) dorm room was a foot-deep in dirty clothes, I thought, “When I have an apartment with more space . . . it will be easier.”
When I had an apartment, I thought, “Once I’m done with college and real life begins . . . it will be easier.”
When I got a job and lived by myself I thought, “Once I get married, then it will be fun to have a cute little home . . . and that will make it easier.”
When I got married I thought, “Once we have kids and I stay home with them . . . I’ll finally be able to keep the house under control.”
Mmmmm-hmmmm. (Says the older, much wiser, knows-how-full-of-
Two years ago, when I started this blog, I finally accepted that waiting for the next phase of life . . . wasn’t working.
Yes, each phase has its own challenges and rewards. But my slob-brain was the thing that stayed the same through each phase. I needed to make adjustments for the challenges of each phase, not live in chaos waiting for the state of my home to magically get better.
I have a long list of things that have been on my once-the-kids-are-in-school backburner for years. If I were to tackle even a third of them, I’m pretty sure my home would fall right back into its natural state of disaster.
I have to prioritize. With “Keep the House Livable” at the top of the list.
In permanent ink.
Because if I don’t force myself to put it at the top, it might not even make the list.