Purging Kids’ Clothes . . . Again

Can I just say that after the high of getting my insanely-cluttered-and-neglected garage organized, the low of (unsuccessfully) looking for my daughter’s dance bag in her how-is-it-a-disaster-again room yesterday morning was not a fun contrast?  It’s definitely been one of those recovering-slob mood swing days that I could totally do without.

After my less-than-mommy-of-the-year-worthy performance yesterday, I decided to slowly and methodically work on her room today.  And I was determined to keep a smile on my face.

But that still-unfinished project is not the subject of today’s post.  This post is about something I decided to do in the middle of the Polly Pocket/Barbie/very-loud-singing-dolls-and-all-their-accessories-and-wardrobes sorting.

I decided to do a quick clothing purge.  In her closet, and in the boys’ closet.

I initially thought that there wouldn’t be much to purge, since my purging-as-I-fold-the-laundry skills have greatly improved during this deslobification process.

I was wrong.

While I definitely didn’t need six-weeks worth of shopping bags to hold the unneeded clothing (the way I  would have pre-blog), I found enough to make a good-sized pile.

The problem was the invisible stuff. 

Honestly, our kids don’t wear many fancy clothes.  Or even very many dressy clothes.  For church, my daughter wears cute but comfy dresses, and the boys generally wear khaki pants and a collared pullover shirt.

About once a year, for Easter or Christmas or a wedding, we end up buying fancy shoes and maybe a dressier pair of pants.  Then, when we need them again . . . they’re too small.

Always. 

And we usually discover this on the morning of the day we need them.

So, the unexpected benefit of today’s purge was that I actually looked at those invisible rarely-needed items, and paid attention to which ones were worth keeping.  No more sure-we’ve-got-dress-shoes-for-the-wedding-next-week delusions. 

While I was at it, I also went through the drawers. 

I made myself be realistic about what wasn’t getting worn. 

Starting with two boys, I sometimes have to remind myself how different girls are.  The boys honestly do not care one teeny-tiny bit what they wear. 
But with girls, it’s different.  It doesn’t matter how soft and cozy and cute I think those fleece pajamas are.  If she thinks they look goofy . . . she’ll avoid them all winter long.  It doesn’t matter if I think a shirt is perfect to wear with jeans.  If it doesn’t catch her fancy, she’ll pass over it each and every day.

Honestly, I almost put the star shirt back.  It feels soooo nice (to me), and it will probably still fit her next year . . . .

But why would I put it back to sit unused in her drawer for another year? 

All in all, I got rid two shopping sacks worth. Not too bad for a quick purge when I didn’t think there was much that needed purging.

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Ten Things? Just Ten Things?

I’m not feeling very productive today.  I’ve been going, going, going . . . but I can’t see many results. 

And . . . I didn’t clean the bathrooms

Even though it’s Tuesday!  Bathroom Day!  I know.  Shameful. 

For a scatter-brain, I am strangely ruled by routine. It doesn’t make sense. 

Whatever.  

Anyway, I can NOT seem to work grocery shopping into my routine.  Ever since I had to stop doing it on Wednesdays (you know, last AUGUST), I haven’t been able to find a time that consistently works.  Monday morning, immediately after I drop the boys off at school, is the most logical. 

But since I despise it so much, I often figure out a way to put it off until Tuesday morning. 

So, today, I had no choice.  I had to go.  But that meant that we got home later, and I decided that I had to make a choice between exercising or cleaning bathrooms. (Since blogging time, of course, isn’t optional.)

I chose to exercise.  

Anyway, on to the point of this ever-so-rambling post.  I was determined to do some sort of deslobificating today.  I shared yesterday about my acceptance of the role clothing plays in my inability to control the state of the master bedroom

Though my closet is stuffed full of clothes, I often can’t find a single thing that I want to wear.  Sometimes it’s because the good stuff is all in the End of the Bed pile, and sometimes it’s because the good stuff is invisible, crammed between the not-so-good stuff.  Sometimes it’s because nothing fits, hence the need for exercise.

It’s starting to bug me.  I had been looking with disgust at my over-full closet for a while now, and in my mind I kept thinking things like: 

I bet I could get rid of 3/4 of what’s in here. 

There is no reason to keep things that I never ever choose to wear. 

Now that I have laundry somewhat under control, I simply don’t need these last-resort-outfits.

So, today, I thought it would be easy to just grab ten things to get rid of.  Y’know, so I’d have something to blog about. 

Ten little old things. 

But somehow, it was incredibly difficult.  EVERY SINGLE ITEM that I grabbed caused severe doubts.

The What-ifs were flowing freely through my brain.  But I did it. 

If I had to do ten more today, I don’t know if I could.

Sometimes, I really irritate myself. 

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Clue #1 in the Master Bedroom Mystery: Good Intentions, Bad Results

Considering its pre-blog state, the master bedroom is not that bad.

Still, though, my heart would palpitate if someone other than the five of us saw it.  My sense of hearing took on super-hero qualities every time one of the kids at last night’s Superbowl party walked past its door.  If I had heard a doorknob moving, I would have knocked someone over to get there lightning fast.

One of my goals for the year is to solve the master bedroom mystery.  

I’m not an idiot.  I know that it gets to disaster status because I don’t consistently pick up clutter.  I don’t hang up my clothes.  I put every random thing that doesn’t have a home on top of my dresser, and my nightly routine includes throwing my current read onto the floor before turning off my lamp.

I get it.  

But, head knowledge doesn’t do me much good.  I’ve accepted that with the way my brain works, I have to put changes into practice before I can start to truly understand them.

Confusing enough?

I know that clothes are a big part of my problem.  I’ve worked to decrease my children’s clothing, but I’ve managed to skillfully avoid messing with my own stash.  So, I’m focusing on clothing as I begin this investigation.

First, there’s the big problem of the all-too-convenient End of the Bed.  It’s just so perfect for stashing my good intentions.

  • Clothes that were tried on, but didn’t ultimately win the Battle of the Outfits for that particular day.
  • Clothes that were worn once, often just for a few hours, and so they didn’t qualify as Dirty Clothes.
  • Clothes that were dumped on the bed to be folded on Laundry Day, but then got sucked into the abyss created by the previous two types of clothes.
  • Dirty clothes.  Because if I let myself pile up clean clothes, something dirty always slips in with them.

So, since today is Laundry Day anyway, I decided to tackle that pile.

I get paralyzed doing this sometimes, because of the whole, “Is this clean or dirty?” dilemma.  This may gross someone out, but I decided to err on the side of calling things clean.  My rationale was that I probably put it there, originally, because I considered it clean.  (Surely I would have put it in the dirty clothes otherwise, right?)  And part of the endless cycle is continuously putting these probably-clean-but-just-in-case-they’re-not clothes into the laundry again, causing more overwhelm-ment (not a word, but totally a thing).

The pile happens because I have good intentions. 

“I don’t want to launder things that could be worn again . . . that would be wasteful.” 

“I may not have decided to wear this today, but I’m not going to just throw it on the floor, that would be ridiculous.”  (Dirty clothes go on the floor, duh.)

“I’m going to wear this tomorrow, so I’ll go ahead and balance it on top of the pile . . . isn’t the weather always the same two days in a row?”

But my good intentions have bad results.  I’m un-scientifically guessing that out of every 10 times I throw something on there with a good intention, 9.8 times I forget what that good intention was, and the item becomes part of an ambiguous pile.

I have to start being intentional with my clothing.  Clothes that don’t make the cut for the day need to go back in the closet.  Clothes that can be worn again need to . . . . go back in the closet!

No more mindless stripping.  (Sorry, honey.)

I’m linking this up to Orgjunkie.com’s 52 Weeks of Organizing.  It wasn’t a week of huge progress, but just having that spot cleared (and maintained) makes an incredible difference in the master bedroom. 
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