Pros and Cons of Having a Housekeeper

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Yesterday, I shared my opinion on hiring house cleaners.

Today, I’m sharing an AWESOME email I got from one of you recently. The minute I got this email, I asked if I could share it as a guest post.

I knew all of these things to be true, but it means so much more coming from someone who is living it. Who speaks from experience.

I’m not sharing the author’s name by her request. (I totally understand since I didn’t share my own name for two years here.)


Hi Nony!

I just found you recently on iTunes and now subscribe to your blog as well. You and I are very similar in our “cleaning” styles. I relate so much to what you talk about and have struggled for MANY years (since my messy bedroom as a child). I could go on, but I’m writing this to tell you about having a housekeeper.

I am married to someone who grew up in an immaculate home and with the belief that keeping things “nice” is a moral issue, not simply a preference. (Maybe that’s an exaggeration…) We’ve always struggled with housework as a couple and it has been a constant strain on our marriage from the beginning. By the time the second baby was born it reached a fever pitch and something had to change. We got a housekeeper…

A weekly housekeeper.

Don’t all of us who struggle in this area believe that if we only had a housekeeper all our problems would be solved? I know I did! So that was two years ago and here I am reading your blog. Not to say housekeepers are useless… She still comes once a week and I LOVE her. She has improved the quality of our lives immensely, but I still struggle. I thought it may be helpful for you (and potentially your readers) to see what having a housekeeper can (and cannot) do for you.

1. She CLEANS your house, but she can’t clean if your cr*p is covering every surface and floor in your house. Which means every week I run around and yell at my kids for two hours before she comes. It never fails that I put this off until the last minute.

2. The house looks and smells amazing when she leaves. And that lasts for up to twelve hours as long as everyone is asleep for most of that time. Then by the next day, the kitchen is a disaster, the floors are covered in toys and the garbage can smells, again.

3. She does dishes, but not a full weeks dishes. You still need to wash your dishes everyday, and do your laundry and clean off the table and sweep the floor…

4. She costs money: we pay her $70 a week. There are times I think it is ridiculous to pay someone to clean our house.

5. She does not declutter.


5. Our house gets completely “company ready” every week.

6. I have the comfort of knowing that pile of dirty clothes has never been there for more than a week.

7. I haven’t cleaned a shower or bathtub in over two years AND they both are clean!!

8. When I have to run around because company is coming (which I still do), I’m done much quicker and clearing off the bathroom counter reveals a clean sink and counter rather than a disgusting mess.

9. It has improved my marriage. It is the one day a week we don’t argue about the house. (Maybe another exaggeration…)

10. The daily tasks from still come in handy and help the rest of the week run much more smoothly. Or at least I hope they will if I can actually get through a full week of doing them!


Thanks for all you do for those of us who think like you!


I love this real-life perspective. Do you have a housekeeper? Have you always dreamed that one would solve all your problems??

For the record, I think the “cons” are really just reality-checks.

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Several have asked how to find a cleaner. My best advice is to ask people you know. I hired someone to clean for a HUGE party once, and this was what I did. I was VERY surprised to find out that so many of my friends had regular cleaning people. This is the best way to find someone local, with a reference, who is hopefully trustworthy.

Another option is a service like this (which I’ve never personally used, but just happens to be an affiliate link) : Book a Home Cleaning at


(Clears Throat) My Thoughts . . . on Hiring Someone to Clean Your Home

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In a moment I’m going to climb up on a soapbox.

But first, I’ll explain what brought about this post.

I had lunch with my best friend recently. She casually brought up the subject of hiring a house cleaner. And asked if I think I’ll ever be able to justify having one.

My passionate response surprised her a little.

I know that my blog is about me cleaning my house, so there’s that little issue. (Don’t worry. I’m not getting a maid any time soon. Unfortunately.)

But . . .  as a general rule . . . I’m all for paying someone to clean.

Anyone. Any time. I think everyone who can possibly afford one should have a maid.

Or cleaning person. Or whatever is the appropriate term at this moment in time.

As we were leaving, she told me the real reason she had brought up the subject of hiring cleaners.

Her husband owns a business and had a job he’d like her to do for the company. Her first response was that maybe doing this job could justify her hiring someone to clean her house.

Her husband’s response? You don’t need to do this job to justify hiring a cleaning person. We can afford one right now, so if you want one . . . get one.

And yet she didn’t hop on the phone and schedule the first one she could find.

Here’s the gist of the Soapbox Speech I gave her right there in the El Fenix parking lot:

GET A MAID!! Why in the world, when you can afford it, and you need one, would you NOT get a maid??

Hiring someone to clean your house isn’t admitting defeat. It’s solving a problem. Who cares if you could eventually figure out a way to keep your toilets clean if you just tried hard enough?

If you can hire someone, you should.

How did we end up in a world where there is some sort of stigma associated with hiring someone to clean your house for you?

Hiring someone to clean is a win win. You get a cleaner house. Your family enjoys a cleaner house. You increase your hospitality because you’re more willing to have people over AND you have more time to spend on the other aspects of hospitality.

(Though I must say she’s already one of the most hospitable people I’ve ever known.)

Someone else gets a job. That amount of money you’re willing (and able) to pay someone else to clean your house goes to someone who NEEDS that money. Someone who is then able to spend that money on things he/she needs for his/her family.

You’re helping your family. You’re helping the person who needs the opportunity to earn some money. You’re helping the economy!

She was a little surprised by my passion.

But for real, I’m all about doing what needs to be done without letting “shoulds” get in the way.

And I may have mentioned this before, but part of my passion comes from my experience living in Thailand for two years. I had a maid. Weekly. I know (from experience) that having a maid does not solve slob problems. Really. The two are almost unrelated.

Someone in Bangkok explained to me that it was actually considered wrong to NOT have a maid if you could afford one because you were denying someone else the opportunity to provide for their family. That just makes so much sense to me.

OK. I’m done now. Feel free to agree or disagree in the comments. Or to explain which term is politically correct.

Tomorrow . . . I’m excited to publish a post written by one of YOU which shows that having a housekeeper does not solve slob problems. It helps, but doesn’t make them go away.


Several have asked how to find a cleaner. My best advice is to ask people you know. I hired someone to clean for a HUGE party once, and this was what I did. I was VERY surprised to find out that so many of my friends had regular cleaning people. This is the best way to find someone local, with a reference, who is hopefully trustworthy.

Another option is a service like this (which I’ve never personally used, but just happens to be an affiliate link) : Book a Home Cleaning at


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Removing Soap Scum From My Shower Without Chemicals (In Four Short Weeks)

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It’s Earth Day.

We’re not doing anything to celebrate, but I thought it was a good day to write this post that has come to mind at least once a day for the past few weeks.

It comes to mind while I’m in the shower.

I could have titled it: Why I Keep a Giftcard in My Shower.

Because keeping one in there (a used-up one) reminds me to do a little scraping each time I take a shower.

As I shared on the Home Depot site recently, you can scrape off soap scum with a plastic gift card. In case anyone was under the impression that I share cleaning tips because I’m awesome, this should explain that I share them because I need them.

I need tricks to help me remove soap scum that’s gotten out of hand. Soap scum that escaped my Slob Vision for way too long. Soap scum in a shower that I chose to delete from my bathroom cleaning list too many times.

Oh, the four short weeks part? It’s a joke. Not a joke because it isn’t true, but a joke because four weeks isn’t short.

But a minute or two of somehow-extremely-satisfying scraping each day while taking a shower is short.

Way shorter than the hour-or-so it would take to get it all done at once.

Oh, and if you put off cleaning your shower because you don’t like getting your clothes wet, try this.



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